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How to keep a Daydream Journal

“Dreams really can come true”

Do you ever have those moments when you’re sitting in peace, where you connect with the feeling like you should be somewhere else, doing something else?  Perhaps you see glimpses of it in your mind’s eye and the feeling of being in that moment is like you have found your place.  Maybe you’ve been reading something, or listening to something and you suddenly see yourself right there in the picture.  It’s you riding your horse across the sand dunes, it’s you meditating on the pristine beach or it’s you standing on the stage presenting to thousands.

What do these daydreams mean?  More importantly, what do you do with them?

The important thing to know is that your dream life is already within you and it’s in these moments of your consciousness disengaging that you connect with it.  Your conscious mind sabotages your connection to the true vision of what you want because of fear.  Because of the experiences that you have had in your past that have created beliefs that don’t serve your dream’s manifestation.

The biggest fear I see that is sabotaging people living the life they truly want is money fear…

“But I can’t afford it”

“Money will be scarce if I splash out on it”

“That is not possible for me”

You get to keep what you speak.  Your energy is directing your abundance. “Worrying is Praying.” Putting negative, frustrated, ungrateful energy out into the universe, even unconsciously, is asking the universe to send you more of the same.

So how do you put the good juju that attracts the abundance you seek out into the universe more often?

It comes down to habit. Your daily rhythm that makes you feel abundant. When you feel abundant, you’re already more than half way there…

The alternative is that your past experiences dictate a reality that is not your truth, but the fear of scarcity that your beliefs create block you from seeing what is really possible.  And in this inability to see lies the inability to manifest.  Everything is created twice, first in your imagination.

Next time you find yourself in the lucid daydream of your real truth, grab a notebook and write down the dream you found yourself in or the feeling that you felt pulled towards.  What is the activity you were doing?  Who were you with?  Describe in as much detail as possible, especially the feeling of it.

It does not matter how crazy it is or how far it is from the life you have.  So often when we are mothers and partners we think, “that can’t be me.”  Bronnie Ware, a Palliative Care Worker and author of the book, Regrets of the Dying asked those in their last moments about their regrets or anything they would do differently, the most common response was:

I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

Pay attention to your daydreams, they are the call of your soul to what you really want.  Learn to plan to achieve the impossible!

Feel Think DO

Make that your Mantra, and don’t let money be the only thing standing between you and your dreams.

If you need some help on the money side, on the 19th January, I’ll be leading a free 5 day MONEY MINDSET CHALLENGE to share with you the things I’ve learned.

I’ll be helping you discover…

Your Limiting Beliefs Around Money So You Can Unblock Your Abundance & Activate More Money In Your Life!

You can register here (check the box to receive a preview of my special Daydream Journal that you can use to start catching your own dreams!):

 

 

business, Freedom, gratitude, law of attraction, manifestation, mindset, Money, success, Uncategorized

What if the only reason you believe you can’t is because you never have? 🤷‍♀️

It’s the 1st January 2020: The first day of a brand new month, of a brand new year and a brand new decade!

I’ve seen a lot of social media getting people to reflect on their past decade and envision what they want in the next one. Is it that easy to be clear?

It’s hard to see what you’ve never created and I’ve seen this create huge blocks in the belief of my clients that they can manifest their vision at all!

So what is a better way if you are feeling a little that way… Like you’re in a limbo land between one time paradigm and another – You are not the person you were in 2019 and you are not yet the woman you will be in 2020!

Here are the 7 things you can do right now to feel more certainty and less doubt

To Kickstart the MOTIVATION you need to take the action that will make you succeed in 2020!

Do these 7 things and your path forward will reveal itself:

✅ Commit to a powerful morning ritual every day that empowers you to connect with your wisdom within and power charge your mind and body for a successful day. Include visualisation, gratitude and planning to ensure a productive day, where you in control of your time.

For a copy of my Superhuman Morning Routine, complete the quick contact form below!

✅ Affirmations 👌
If you know what you are working towards and you know who you want to become and your doubts are stemming from the fact you haven’t created the success you want already, affirmations are a must! We create our reality with our thoughts!

✅ Mindset ❗❗❗
Another must! How can you develop indestructible self belief and get rid of, once and for all, your negative mindset patterns and unconscious self sabotage? Having goals for 2020 is one thing. Having the mindset that empowers motivation and confidence to take action is another!

For a free tool to help you improve your mindset this month, to start the year off with a BANG, complete the quick contact form below!

✅ Money Mindset 🎉🎉🎉
This is just another part of your Mindset that may be holding you back. (Probably more than you realise….)
If you have trouble parting with money to investing your growth
If you feel a deep lack of money in your life
If you say no to support for fear it will cost you money
Or if you worry about money and think about money in a negative way, your money mindset is holding you back. Are you ready to let go of this limiting mindset?

For a free tool to help you improve your money mindset this month, complete the quick contact form below!

✅ Vision🔥
We live out out in our life what we create in our mind and believe to be possible in our hearts! List out the 3 three things you want to achieve in 2020 in the short contact form below and let me know how confident you feel about achieving them!

✅ Reflection
Now in your own notebook, spend some time reflecting on your wins in the last 12 months. Really feel into how you felt when you achieved them. What else made you feel good, happy, fulfilled, energised, excited? 😍 Write your accomplishments and good times down.

✅ Why? 🌞
Finally, identify why you want to win in 2020. What will your success create in your life, your family’s life and the lives of the people you want to impact? Your why has to be big enough that on the darkest of days in 2020 you still get up and take the action that will lead to your success!

If you’d like some FREE support this month to set your vision and stay accountable to taking action (including the tools I mentioned above!), complete the short contact form below and I’ll send you a special FREE access code for my programme 20:20:20!

business, Freedom, mindset, Money, success, Uncategorized

What has been your biggest learning this year?

I was talking to somebody yesterday who completed one of my market research surveys and I shared with her that when I didn’t win the Reality Show I took part in earlier this year, I had a moment where I was like “I’m done!”

I could see no other way forward without somebody giving me the coaching I felt I needed to take my own coaching business to the next level for free because I felt I “couldn’t afford” the level of support I needed.

That was my first big learning of this year.

I still had a terrible scarcity mindset.

In spite of all the things I’d done to work on it and the big leaps I’d made, blocks around money were ruining my chance for greater wealth and success (and as such, greater impact).

This is something I have completely transformed since I got back from that show in May. I thought I’d rewired my money mindset, but the truth was that I still was living in deep scarcity in my mind and I was making decisions from that place, which weren’t progressing my life or the impact I wanted to make on others.

My second learning was that I hadn’t truly healed from my experience of being raped.

Again, I thought this was something I’d already done, but I realised in the Play to Win Reality show that I really hadn’t. I hadn’t connected with the feeling of shame for being raped and I was still  feeling this in many areas of my life in the present day.

Both my scarcity mindset and my inability to feel the thing I have been most scared about (vulnerability) were stopping me from taking the massive action I needed to show up, which was the one thing missing between where I was and the income and impact I truly wanted to make.

And these learnings have paid me Iback dividends!

I’ve just come out of the best three months I have ever had earning wise  (I have tripled my income since May).

I’m now working with a Coach that charges more money than I currently own, but I’m ready. Something significant shifted in me. I realised that if nothing changes, nothing changes. We’ve got to go all in our goals, do what we haven’t done and go where we feel most fear to succeed. And if we aren’t willing to do that, write off the chance of success you seek. Or at the very least, know it will take you significantly longer, with significantly more frustration and lack to get to where you really want to be.

Actually investing to match the level I want to see change in my life is the only thing I hadn’t done to really hit my Big Audacious Hairy Ass Goals thus far. And my new Coach said something that really got me thinking… If we fear investing, surely that means we are assuming we are going to fail.  She’s right.

One month into my coaching, I am now ready to release my 8-week u_UNLEASHED program to help others unleash their inner potential to create more income and impact in their lives.

The program has everything you need (everything I lacked) to create, launch, scale and market an offering FAST  that impacts others and generates a sustainable and scalable income that gives you the freedom-based lifestyle your soul craves and your heart deserves.

I’ve done it. Now you can too. The programme is split across

– Superhuman Mindset & Performance coaching from my MyndDojo,

–  Strategy coaching for simplification, automation and scale,

– And Marketing coaching and strategy that makes you stand out from all the other cookie cutter crap you see on social media, so that your message and mission gets heard over all the other noise and you make the impact that is your Soul Goal.

To register your expression of interest in this program, fill out the contact box below (you’ll get my free Instagram tool, even if the programme is not for you):

nutrition, Uncategorized, wellness

Are you tired of your weight rollercoaster?

I am a fighter.  For 9 years I have worked hard to stay within a weight band that is optimum for my fighting.  That number on the scale has meant everything.  Partially, in my mindset, an indicator of my “success”.  However, I want to share with you an experience that proved for me that whatever I thought it was an indicator of, it isn’t an indicator of what is on the inside of me or my state of health, however “slim” I thought I looked.

My weight nowadays generally sits at about 52 kilos. Pre-pregnancy and babies I used to sit at around 50 kilos.  Do you know why?  Because I used to relate my positive body image to no more than 8 stones on the scales.  Nothing to do with my health or feelings of energy and vitality.  It was just a number I related to my body image at a particular time in my life where I felt good.  Every time I have dropped under 52 kilos for a fight camp since having my babies, I have piled the weight back on almost immediately after fight camp has finished.  Because my body has been deprived of what it needs and the consequence of this has been cravings and binge eating, and after 6-8 weeks eating clean and restricting my calories, eating badly and over-eating makes me feel like shit, and so the cycle starts again.

Have you found yourself on a similar rollercoaster?

A few months ago I got the opportunity to fight for a title at 48.9 kilos.  I wasn’t worried because I have dropped to this weight before.  I knew I could do it and about a kilo of it would be just water weight anyway.  The difference this time was that for the last 12 months I have been on an incredible journey.  A personalised journey to find out what my body needs in terms of macro and micro nutrients.  I have been feeling awesome, better than ever before actually.  My energy has been off the charts.  Some of the health issues I have suffered for years just went away and I saw muscle on my body I have literally never seen before, in spite of training at high intensity 6 days a week for as long as I could remember!  It was like this layer of ‘puppy fat’ that I had always had and always felt subconscious about had just magically melted away. I looked lean and I looked strong.

Right before I began my weight cut this time I got on my Smart Scales and looked at my body composition.  I looked at my muscle mass, my visceral fat and my body fat. Everything was in good, healthy ranges for me.  I looked at my resting metabolism, i.e what my body needs to survive in calories, so I could add on my calories burned through exercise and movement through the day.  I felt in control.  I felt good and I looked good!  I had a diet I could follow and feel confident was providing my body with what it needs!  And I no longer had all those annoying cravings that drove me  to make stupid decisions.  In fact, I was eating more than ever and adding on no weight at all. My metabolism was on fire.

Faced with the challenge to lose weight fast though, I made a terrible decision.  I made the decision to go away from everything I had learned in my journey to personalise my diet to my body’s actual needs to what I knew would move weight, fast.  Cutting carbohydrates.  I want to share with you the results of this and share with you the lessons I learned, the hard way.

In a couple of months I lost 2 kilos.

This was my aim – 250 grams a week – comfortable, safe weight loss.  However, a couple of weeks in, my training got really hard.  I felt my muscles screaming at me during training sessions and I felt fatigued after them.  I felt fatigued in general!  And my tummy was completely messed up.  Without being completely ‘TMI’, it felt like I had the runs every day, and it was horrible.  And I looked terrible.  A friend actually reached out to me by messenger and asked me if everything was OK!  I felt rubbish.

4 weeks before my fight I decided to pull the pin.  Well, to be more accurate a doctor signed me off and told me I would be stupid to try and cut any more weight and over-exert myself when my body clearly wasn’t holding onto and benefiting from what I was putting in it already.  At this point I had also found blood in my stools and I was chronically fatigued.

So what was going on?

I got back on my smart scales and found I had lost a whopping 600g in muscle mass. My resting metabolism had dropped by a couple of hundred calories. My body fat percentage hadn’t moved at all. From this information alone I could see that all I’d done with dumping carbohydrates and creating a calorie deficit was tell my body it had to go into survival mode and preserve fat and sacrifice muscle. A number of the other side effects would have followed on from here. Others perhaps not, but this was enough information for me to commit to sharing the new way I had found, the better way, to lose weight and keep that weight off sustainably.

For 8 months previous to my awful decision I had been following a diet personalised to my genetic makeup.

75% of generic diets FAIL. That means that 75% of people on a diet that has not been personalised to their actual needs will FAIL. You might see an initial weight drop like me, then it will plateau. You’ll give up, or reach the end of your target time on the diet and all the weight will go back on. You will have lost muscle and affected your metabolism in a bad way, and this yo yo dieting will put pressure on your blood sugar balance, mess with your hormones, mess with your self-esteem and energy levels and who knows what other damage on the inside of you.

To refresh my health after I dropped my title fight, I took up a mostly plant-based diet, went back to my recommended macros and saw my energy quickly FLY. I realised I could satisfy my body’s needs for high carbohydrates with a mix of plant-based foods over traditional breads, wraps and rolls AND eat in a way my body found easy to digest. I cannot tell you how good this has felt.

There are 2 tools you need to personalise your weight loss journey like this and I would love to be able to share them with you. They are what have me now at a place where my energy is high, my mood is good, my blood pressure is normal and my weight is back at a healthy number. Not that I believe this number means much at all now! It’s what’s on the inside, how we feel and how we are eating, moving and living in favour of our long term health.

To find out how you can get insight like this on your own body to meet your weight and health goals, click here.

Or come and join me at my local event week, Nov 11th – Summer Refresh in Tauranga!

If you have enjoyed this blog and are ready to make a change; this event is definitely is for you! Check out the event on Facebook here

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