anxiety, Freedom, law of attraction, manifestation, mindset, Uncategorized, wellness

How to Ensure Gut Instinct is the Right Instinct!

Our emotional lives are a patchwork made of beliefs we have internalised and modes of reality we have modeled

Ever get a “hunch” something is not right?

“Gut instinct” is real; it can even be measured, mapped in the body and analysed chemically.  We know that differing emotional states cause different sensations inside our body and different signal physical reactions… When we are angry, our heart rate speeds up and our face gets hot, when we are anxious, we feel a little sick and we breathe faster, when we are sad, our heart physically hurts.

What do you feel when you get a “hunch”?  Do you act on the feeling?  How do you know whether this intuitive decision is the right one? Have you made an intuitive decision that is the wrong one before?

Understanding how we are feeling on the inside is called Interoceptive Awareness and it truly is our internal guidance system – we can be guided by our heart.

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We also can be over-sensitive to our feelings, which we see in people who experience pain more than another person or experience fear more than the next person to the point of anxiety. While I was a previous sufferer of crippling anxiety disorder I have actually experienced a low Interoceptive Awareness since childhood.  It ultimately manifested in an eating disorder in my teens at a time when a lot of things were out of control in my life.  Interestingly enough [coincidentally?] I also have the “fat gene” that stops you recognizing when you’re full up.  Later this lack of internal guidance manifested in my experience of my anxiety, where my body would show very clear physical signs of anxiety (heart rate increasing, etc) without my conscious awareness until I was already in a panic attack. My eldest daughter also seems to suffer with this naturally low Interoceptive Awareness. For example, she will not seemingly notice feelings of hunger, pain or even needing the toilet, until the need is so urgent that it’s too late.

So you can see how this internal guidance system and our connection to it affects our positive:

  • Self-awareness
  • Problem-solving
  • Perspective taking
  • Social understanding
  • Flexibility of thought
  • Emotional Recognition and regulation
  • And use of our Intuition.

In this month’s 20:20:20 Programme we have been focused on Intuition – how we can better connect to it and how we can use it to make the intuitive decisions that take us forward to wherever we want to get to.

“Recent findings show that instincts based in feelings from within our bodies are powerful and useful influences on the way our minds make decisions. The old divide between a thinking brain and an unthinking body is blurring. And despite the word “gut,” that useful instinct goes far beyond our stomach and includes the feelings from our heartbeat, our lungs, muscles and even our immune system, whether we are conscious of it or not.  It is the “the dialogue between brain and body.”  Ottawa Citizen

So how do we listen to our gut and ensure it’s giving us the right answers?

Let’s think about the biological process.

We know we have five primary sense organs: our sight, our smell, our taste, our touch and our hearing.  Within these sense organs are receptors for specific types of stimuli that are connected to our body’s nervous system, which then sends data to our brain and provides us with useful information about our physical/external world. I.e. we feel an itch, we scratch, right? However, if we feel a threat, our nervous system will also respond appropriately; whether this reaction is appropriate or not (read more here to understand better what I mean and how this is damaging).

But what about our essential/internal world?  What about our connection to our inner voice, or even, our higher self?

This is where we meet our sixth and seventh sense.

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We are still using our Interoceptive Awareness, but this is where we experience the “hunch” of intuition, déjà vu, or that crazy feeling of a past life parallel.  Conditioning makes us question these feelings, even distrust them. We spend 10+ years at school learning to look for cause and effect because there is always a theory or a precedent or a formula/rule. Where do you think we get the belief so strong that “it’s just a coincidence?”

When we begin to dip our toes into the world of vibrational energy and Law of Attraction, our senses become an interface between the dense physical world and the non-physical world of pure consciousness. Our sixth sense utilizes our feeling body to inform us when our intuition is on or off target, as long as that connection to our consciousness is strong, and if it is our seventh sense, our purest knowing will embody in us the impenetrable trust of Flow when we are in it.

When we are children, before we go to school and before we create beliefs or take on beliefs and conditioning that limits us and disconnects us from ourselves, we are in a state of open wonderment. And what I like to help my clients rediscover is that the same wonderment is still within us if we remove the upper limits that block us from it, and if we learn to become aware of the feelings we have, what they are telling us and can be sure they are not being shaped by beliefs that will not serve us.

So where do we start with that “gut feeling” that we can’t quite put into words?

ChildWe have to start with our belief systems that guide our ultimate self belief and how we show up in our life.  This is something I go very deeply into in my From Fear to Fierce course.

We can also use techniques that I am going to connect you to below that tune up our Interoceptive Awareness, so that it’s in good nick; not over or under-serving us.  If we think about the Maslow’s Hierachy of Needs, if we fulfil at the bottom we are more likely to reach our full potential.  Like the saying, “you can’t pour from an empty cup.”

We are all busy in life and serving the needs as others as well as ourselves.  Some of us are particularly driven and take on more than we can chew, but if we don’t notice our own needs stacking up, our proverbial cup tips over, so to speak.  And we can’t hear our inner voice if it is drowned out by other noise.  (If this resonates, you might benefit from my mini course to help quiet your mind, so your soul can speak.)

So, while our Interoceptive Awareness system is the least known and least understood sensory system and is generally thought to control our autonomic functions like blinking, breathing, and flinching.  It’s also how we recognise pain, hunger, thirst, needing the toilet, our emotions and more.  Sensory receptors send neural signals to the insula deep inside the brain and it is here that an important process is undertaken to decode the message and alert us to the changes in our body’s state.

Any imbalance in our body isn’t healthy.  If we think about emotion, being angry causes our heart rate to rise, the blood to rush to our face and then we often fire off at somebody and regret it.  Sadness causes our heart to physically hurt and this can cause us hide away and wallow, go off our food and disconnect.

We are empowered to act in a way that is positive at this decoding stage of the process.  We can choose to feel the emotion so that it is processed, not repressed. We can meet our needs and we can listen to the important messages of our inner voice and be guided by our intuition when it comes to the choices we make and the directions we go.

Different sensations inside the body allow us to understand how we’re feeling and make the best decision based on that fact.

To access your FREE Interoceptive Awareness Fine Tuning Tool, enter your email below and I’ll send it right out!  Leave me a comment, if you like, about your experience at the moment.  There may be other free tools that are helpful

In your high vibes, happiness & healthiness,

CW x x x

Freedom, gratitude, law of attraction, manifestation, mindset, Money, success, Uncategorized

How Gratitude is Linked to Your Bank Account (and other success!)

Do you ever find yourself saying something like,

“When I hit [fill the blank $/month], then I’ll feel fulfilled?”

Or, something like,

“When I lose that 5 kilos, then I’ll feel better about myself?”

Or,

“When I’m earning better, then I’ll feel grateful and blessed/happy?”

 

I’d like to suggest that you have it the wrong way around….

 

That is exactly where I was.  When I was in financial hardship I was miserable!  I was not grateful for anything I already had, just depressed, frustrated and in complete despair about everything I was lacking.  My energy was rock bottom and in that way it was completely blocking money or any success showing up in my life.  (Read more about the law of attraction in action here.)

We need to create an energy space in which the change we desire is compelled to show up.

So, if we desire more money to land in our bank account, we need to think first about how it would feel to have that money in our bank account! Feel the high of receiving it like we already have it. If we continue to pour out negativity, we will continue to attract more in… Because like attracts like.

I’m not sure I really believed in this stuff the day I decided to listen to my mentor when she suggested I should practice more gratitude.  But I was down for changing my personal energy.  It was sucking the life out of me.  So, even if you don’t believe in the law of attraction, wouldn’t it feel better to completely change your personal energy? Feel lighter, brighter, more positive and less anchored in the worries and the doubts?

Gratitude is the way to start. A feeling of appreciation or thanks. So simple, yet so powerful 💛💛💛

And did you know gratitude grows the more you use it? I am a walking example of that.  And the more gratitude you have, the more you open yourself up for abundance.  And that did totally happen to me.  Nothing changed in my business but me and it started with the practice of gratitude.

Every time my mind started on a negative thought pattern, I started to feel grateful, for whatever -. I even coined this, Gratitudeness 😊

According to the Laboratory of Neuro Imaging, “the average person has about 70,000 thoughts each day. Most of these thoughts are very similar and simply repeat over and over in our heads each day.” There’s one big problem with this — the vast majority of these thoughts are negative.

It’s not always a matter of simply telling our minds DON’T THINK THIS NEGATIVE THOUGHT NOW. Because guess what our minds do? They start to think about that negative thought (they just ignore the don’t part). As the famed psychotherapist Carl Jung said “What you resist persists.”

Flexing our Gratitude muscle works to stop negative thoughts in their track and replace them with something positive and moreover, a good feeling, rather than the bad ones that come with thinking negative thoughts.  When we feel low thoughts, our whole energy depletes and it limits our potential, when we feel good thoughts our energy rises and we open ourselves up to opportunity.

So here is an action to try… Next time you feel sadness, loneliness, fear, anger, bitterness or any negative emotion, try and and flip it to Gratitudeness.

I honestly believe this has been a big part in my success the last 18 months because like attracts like. Feel good do good. We are literally magnets with our personal energy fields. And more often than not, we are pointing the magnet in the wrong direction 😲

If you want to know the exact practice I used to practice gratitude every day, reach out to me in the box below and I’ll send it to you, free of charge!  Please write GRATITUDE in the comments

In Your High Vibes & Happiness,

CW x x

Freedom, law of attraction, manifestation, mindset, Money, success, Uncategorized

What is your deepest darkest confession?  The thing that you don’t feel like you can tell anyone about, but the thing that is holding you back in your life? 

At the beginning of January I committed to creating a video every day for 365 days to help others lift their vibration to manifest success.

You can see them at my YouTube Channel here.

I have had a lot of people reaching out to me since I began these videos.  It seems my suggestion that there is something deep down that holds us back is a true one for many, not just a reflection of my own experience.

When I finally began to work on myself, deeply last year, I discovered that my #1 value in life was freedom and everything in my life was the opposite – trapped and controlled because an experience I had 14 years ago had me living my life in a nice safe bubble.  I suffered with crippling anxiety and I learned that it was my brain, my mindset’s clever way to stop me straying out of that safe bubble.

I read a quote today that said, “you will face your greatest opposition when you are closest to your biggest miracle” – Shannon L. Alder

And it really spoke to me.  I coached with my own incredible mentor 11 months before I shared my deepest, darkest confession.  I peeled back every single other onion layer before that point and I made big transitions forward.  However, it took 11 months for me to speak out what was deep inside and really putting my life on hold.

Do you have something that sits heavy in your heart?  Your own deepest darkest confession?  Not in the sense that it is something you have done, but in that you don’t feel like you can tell anyone about, or maybe even verbalise it properly, you just know it is holding you back in your life?

How would your life be different if you faced this issue?  Spoke it out?  Discovered it and its impact on you?  Or moreover the impact the world is waiting for you to make exactly because this thing happened to you?

Time is so valuable.  I mentioned that last year I discovered my #1 value was freedom and that everything about my life was the opposite.  Coaching helped me discover myself in a supported, gentle and confidential way.  In this way I discovered my past experiences had created beliefs that were limiting me.  In stripping those beliefs away, and walking forward as a completely different person, taking actions I’d never believed were possible for me before I now have freedom in all areas of my life that are important to me – time freedom to spend with my children, a schedule that is mine, not somebody else’s, more financial freedom, more fun and enjoyment in my life, and perhaps more important than anything else, freedom to serve.

The final piece of my self-discovery has been the connection to my purpose and my ability to live that purpose, that freedom and feel the release of almost everything that was holding me back.  This has completely changed my vibration, my ability to manifest and thus my success.  My past experience, the thing that once broke me is now a gift and the reason I am writing a book, the reason I finally got my coaching business off the ground and the reason I connected with an opportunity that is changing peoples’ lives.

What if your story, your deepest darkest confession, the thing that perhaps brings you despair, is the thing that will bring people hope?

Reach out to me if you are ready for your own journey of self-discovery to begin

In your high vibes & happiness,

CW

law of attraction, manifestation, success, Uncategorized

How to Change Your Life By Changing Your Focus

Not so long ago I was in a hole, anchored to past experiences that had filled me with fear and doubt and I felt out of alignment with my soul’s purpose, even though I wasn’t really sure what that was.  We were sinking financially and everything I didn’t have was my constant focus.

They say pain pushes until vision pulls you to take action towards your dreams.

One day I set the intention to change my life by changing my focus.  I went from fear and overthinking to high vibe, dreaming again, feeling good more than feeling bad, connected to my intuition and grateful for limitless abundance!

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NEWS FLASH 🖐🔔📣❗

Working on everything external to you, like your business and your relationship and your career won’t work if you don’t believe you’re capable of your own success.

Everything is created twice. Once in the mind then in reality ~ Robin Sharma

I really believe this!  As I did the inner work and got to know myself away from the fear that had trapped me for so long everything in my life  had.  My relationship and how I spent my time began to feel uncomfortable, like a shoe that had suddenly started to rub….  Things I’d previously done to escape the fear that had ruled my life became unnecessary as I was finally free of my anxiety.  I had to question a lot.  Was this something I truly loved?  Or had it  stopped serving me now I was well, strong, healthy?  What did I need to let go of to allow myself to stretch the wings I had suddenly grown?  Literally like a caterpillar that had gone into chrysalis and emerged.  How did I need to acknowledge this new freedom in my life?  What did I want?

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There is no such thing as ultimate success. And this is incredibly exciting.  Life for me is now exhilarating, as it will become for you.

We will continue to grow until the day we die, but first we must start. The day we begin to work on ourselves is the day our lives start to change.

May this be the first day of the rest of your life knowing to the base of your soul that you will ultimately become your best self living your most extraordinary life!

Click here to discover my Teachable School

I developed a Free Manifestation Challenge to take you through the 4 Keys I learned were necessary to Unlock your Inner Power to Manifest the Life you want.

Just like Robin Sharma says, manifestation is about attracting the things we want flawlessly into our reality by being clear about what we want in our mind first. However, we also have to be open to receiving the outcome of our vision and have let go of any need and the particulars.  I will teach you how to do this across 5 modules. You will become clear, open, unattached to the details and detached from any sense of need.  And all for free.

So, if you are feeling frustrated right now because life doesn’t look how you want it to in terms of your success, happiness and lifestyle, or if you have already begun manifestation and are struggling to fully manifest the big things, you may want to consider this Challenge.  Especially if you are lacking full clarity of what the life of your wildest dreams looks like or have a strong money story like I did.

The Challenge is being hosted on Teachable.com and offers you 7 days of concise, consistent actions. If life happens and you need more time, this platform also gives you the freedom to work at your own pace and undertake the steps at any time, but I recommend sticking to 7 consistent days if you can.

I will drop into your email throughout the course of the week you enrol and I invite you to join my Facebook Inspired Community where you can watch live videos expanding on the day’s content in the Challenge.

At the end of 7 days you will have:

  • Improved belief that you can have everything you see in the vision you set for yourself
  • A clear picture of that vision
  • A more positive mindset
  • Freedom from need and freedom from the detail that is blocking you from manifesting what you want

Does this sound like something that would be useful to you?  If yes, click here to begin!