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What has been your biggest learning this year?

I was talking to somebody yesterday who completed one of my market research surveys and I shared with her that when I didn’t win the Reality Show I took part in earlier this year, I had a moment where I was like “I’m done!”

I could see no other way forward without somebody giving me the coaching I felt I needed to take my own coaching business to the next level for free because I felt I “couldn’t afford” the level of support I needed.

That was my first big learning of this year.

I still had a terrible scarcity mindset.

In spite of all the things I’d done to work on it and the big leaps I’d made, blocks around money were ruining my chance for greater wealth and success (and as such, greater impact).

This is something I have completely transformed since I got back from that show in May. I thought I’d rewired my money mindset, but the truth was that I still was living in deep scarcity in my mind and I was making decisions from that place, which weren’t progressing my life or the impact I wanted to make on others.

My second learning was that I hadn’t truly healed from my experience of being raped.

Again, I thought this was something I’d already done, but I realised in the Play to Win Reality show that I really hadn’t. I hadn’t connected with the feeling of shame for being raped and I was still  feeling this in many areas of my life in the present day.

Both my scarcity mindset and my inability to feel the thing I have been most scared about (vulnerability) were stopping me from taking the massive action I needed to show up, which was the one thing missing between where I was and the income and impact I truly wanted to make.

And these learnings have paid me Iback dividends!

I’ve just come out of the best three months I have ever had earning wise  (I have tripled my income since May).

I’m now working with a Coach that charges more money than I currently own, but I’m ready. Something significant shifted in me. I realised that if nothing changes, nothing changes. We’ve got to go all in our goals, do what we haven’t done and go where we feel most fear to succeed. And if we aren’t willing to do that, write off the chance of success you seek. Or at the very least, know it will take you significantly longer, with significantly more frustration and lack to get to where you really want to be.

Actually investing to match the level I want to see change in my life is the only thing I hadn’t done to really hit my Big Audacious Hairy Ass Goals thus far. And my new Coach said something that really got me thinking… If we fear investing, surely that means we are assuming we are going to fail.  She’s right.

One month into my coaching, I am now ready to release my 8-week u_UNLEASHED program to help others unleash their inner potential to create more income and impact in their lives.

The program has everything you need (everything I lacked) to create, launch, scale and market an offering FAST  that impacts others and generates a sustainable and scalable income that gives you the freedom-based lifestyle your soul craves and your heart deserves.

I’ve done it. Now you can too. The programme is split across

– Superhuman Mindset & Performance coaching from my MyndDojo,

–  Strategy coaching for simplification, automation and scale,

– And Marketing coaching and strategy that makes you stand out from all the other cookie cutter crap you see on social media, so that your message and mission gets heard over all the other noise and you make the impact that is your Soul Goal.

To register your expression of interest in this program, fill out the contact box below (you’ll get my free Instagram tool, even if the programme is not for you):

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From Unsure to Unstoppable

Are you an overthinker? Is it making you hesitant, doubtful… stuck?

Do you know there is potential in you that is untapped and things in your life that you haven’t achieved yet, but there is something holding you back?

Do you want clarity on what is keeping you stuck?

I was driving back from the gym the other night randomly thinking about all the books I used to love as a kid. It was all of the adventure books – Swallows and Amazons, Borrowers, Alice in Wonderland, all the Enid Blyton books; anything that really was magical and adventurous or about faraway places.  It got me thinking about what this says about me and I guess because I have done so much self-discovery in the last year it specifically got me thinking about how I have come full circle, back to realising travel is my biggest dream, freedom is my number one value and adventuring is something I want to get back to doing.   We are at our most pure when we are children, before all those things that happen in our life define us, before we are moulded by society and the dreams of others, before school tells us what we should be and our on going roles define us.

Everything in our life creates a memory with an attached emotion an often, if the emotion is a negative one, like fear, we will hesitate and overthink to protect ourselves.  Suddenly that dream that was once so simple when we were a child now needs a plan:

  • How am I going to do it?
  • I need a plan…
  • How can I do it?
  • I don’t know how to do it…
  • I can’t do it.

Bang goes the dream. You push it to one side because you have overthought it.

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This is holding you back from living the life of your dreams. It is blocking your power to manifest abundance in your life. And if you’re honest. It’s making you feel like shit.

I know because I was there. I was holding myself back from living the life of my dreams.  I was overthinking everything, constantly anxious and not taking action, which was breeding more inaction and fear.

Now I’m making my dreams and goals come true.

What changed?

  • I got clear on the vision of what I wanted in my life
  • I started feeling OK with dreaming. At first I felt bad for even thinking about having more than I already had because I had a husband who loves me, two beautiful children and a roof over our heads. Why did I need more?  I beat myself up until I changed my focus. Then I   started to feel OK and confident to put aside all notions that my dreams were impossible
  • I started accepting that people thought I was crazy and that I was different – the business I chose to finance my dreams was not a conventional choice and it attracted criticism. I felt deep guilt as I watched other mums go back to work and I didn’t have to and for a while it felt weird that I could run a successful business in just a couple of hours a day
  • I became Positively Selfish. I believed it was OK to make space in my life to work on me and work on dreams.

All if these things were possible after I did some important work first.  Did you grab my free Success Hack Checklist?

If you didn’t, let send it you now!

 

 

Not one of the above can happen before you take some first important steps.

The next steps that can follow are:

    • You can comfortably take some time out to get to know you again.  Check out this video from Facebook that talks about what can define us and take us away from our true authentic self, and we can reconnect with it

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  • Start living like your dreams have already come true. Start making decisions like you have already arrived at your goals.  This for me required saying YES.  I’d got to this place where I had stopped saying yes and was saying no to everything.  I had this big bag of excuses: not enough time, not enough confidence, not enough money.
  • Come to terms with your dream being OK – dreaming of having more than what you have already is OK
  • Do something every single day to take you closer to your dreams. I give you some ideas of how to do this in that Success Checklist.  Make sure you request it in the contact form below:

 

 

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The Day She Found Her Fierce & He Found His Heart

Once upon a time a little girl and a little boy were born; in separate homes to separate parents in separate worlds.  The boy’s mother loved her son more than she ever thought she could feel love.  The girl’s mum loved her daughter so much she thought her heart might explode into a thousand pieces.  The dads of the children held their babies tight in their arms and promised to always be there for them, always provide for them and always keep them safe.

As the little boy grew, he started to get stronger on his feet and one day he fell and grazed his knees.  His parents rushed over and said, “come now my son, big boys don’t cry.”  One day in the playground, as the baby girl became a confident child she saw the boy and his friends building sticks and she rushed over to be told, “this game is not for you little girl, go play with the other girls and their dolls.”

Slowly as the pair grew up in their separate worlds with their separate friends they each were slowly robbed of half of the self they had been born with all those years ago. The boy was robbed of living from his heart space and the girl was robbed of her ferocity, and so they followed the paths that fit the selves that were left, until one day they both realised they were unhappy.

The boy was now a man; a strong man with a good job and a loving wife and his own children.  The girl was a loving wife with her own children who she loved so hard she felt her world would cease to exist without them.  But something had happened within both of them for different reasons, which broke them apart so violently that their insides became raw and they could be honest about what they knew they had lost from within themselves.  The man felt like the words were missing to describe the feelings he felt and so he replaced the words with stuff.  The woman got real with the dreams life had taken away from her and she became so fierce in her pursuit of them that she frightened herself.

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Both the man and the woman came full circle, back to what they had always been by connecting to the inner knowing of their souls. A knowing that cannot be explained, only felt. Maybe in some ways, in this way, the woman also connected to her heart space because in being everything to everyone else she lost her compassion for herself.  In finding what both had lost they felt light, free, expanded and alive. They began to live by their intuition.  They faced walking alone as they listened to the feelings the energy of others created within them and decided feeling good was worth the sacrifice of losing all that was no longer aligned to who they were.

As the woman stood in front of her man who had loved her when she was incomplete he now felt threatened and disconnected from her fierce, authentic, feeling wholeness.  And as the man stood in front of the woman who had loved his strong responsible self-control she did not recognise the open, feeling, authentic softness that stood before her either.

Did the couple walk forward together or alone?  That part of the story has not been written yet.