success, Uncategorized

It All Starts with Belief in Yourself.  Here’s How You Can Start to Believe!

12 months before the day I arrived at where I am now I had zero belief in myself and my ability to succeed.  It reflected in every single area of my life as a lack of success and it prevented me putting myself out there/into things 100% because of a fear of failure if I tried.  Whatever I tried, I just couldn’t truly believe I could succeed and I also feared that the higher I climbed on the ladder of success, the farther I would inevitably fall, so staying stuck was actually a very comfortable safety blanket.

It took me a really long time to set the intention to change my life for good and get to where I am today, but the time it took to do the work to arrive once I started, was literally months!  There is learning in that and I realised I could help a lot of people by sharing it.

 

feels good to fly

I have always had a calling to help people, and as I discovered the freedom I gained from working for myself, I felt drawn to specifically helping other visionary women achieve their dreams.  Women like me who feel like they have got more to give in this world, but have found themselves on the wrong track, or have started down the right track, but met obstacles like the money not coming in and so their confidence has depleted and their belief has faded that success will ever happen.  It’s easy to feel you can’t make a living out of the work that sets your soul on fire when you don’t experience success straight away.  And it’s easy to get blocked by fears, either conscious or unconscious, and the doubts that are created by fear, like belief in ourselves.

We can go on, controlled by our fears and trapped in our situation forever, if we want to, or we can set the intention like I did to change.  What did I change?  I started to invest in my own personal development, – I learned how to think, rather then what to think.  This supported me to change my mindset, supported me to release my limiting beliefs and completely transform my self-talk.  I became more positive and grew proud of my “I’ll figure it out” approach that I’d previously put myself down for and criticised as being a poor substitute for training and qualifications.

limiting belief_burning
Me burning my limiting beliefs… it felt liberating!

As my life transformed I realised something important.  We can sit around and wait for success to pass us by or we can take action and work on the one thing, the key ingredient, that is guaranteed to make us a success – ourselves.

success_belief

Uncategorized

_ + _ + _ = SUCCESS!

I wanted to zone straight in on the ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM.

Image result for success

Everybody wants it, it looks like some people get it easy, but generally success is not a clear formula. But there is a formula, and I am going to share it with you in this blog.

Who am I to talk about success?

Valid question and I hope you’ll stick around by following my blog to learn about why I feel so qualified in this subject!

 

Here are the 3 key pieces in my formula for success:

1. Having a written goal

We naturally manifest more of what we focus on. When you spend time identifying what your success looks like, so you can describe your goal with clarity, everything else will follow smoothly.  Without a goal, you will remain stuck

2. Taking Consistent Action

I’m sorry to say it, but having a clear goal without taking action is not going to make your success happen.  I guess it sounds obvious when I say it like that, but I have learned not to be surprised when I see someone who has set a goal, felt chuffed and then sat back waiting for it to happen (whilst wondering why it hasn’t.)  You have to work backwards from your goal to understand the actions you need to take and when you need to take them, so you have a plan.  You also need to think hard about the things that might get in your way of plan and make another plan for what you’ll do in the case that these things happen (it’s so much harder to think clearly in the moment of challenge and this can lead to inaction.)  Finally you always need to know in the back of your mind WHY you are working towards your goal.  Write that down too, so that on those days when action seems impossible, you can remember why you are doing this and get back in the game.

3. Tasting LACK of not having had the success you crave

And when I say taste, I actually mean have had eaten that meal whole, so that it sits in your throat and gives you acid reflux for an entire day.  You have got to really understand what it feels like not to have had success.  Did you ever give up chocolate for lent?  How good does that chocolate taste when you have finally gotten to eat it?  Would it have tasted that good if you had just eaten it yesterday?

Hell no!

If you are not experiencing the success you want to right now, I want you to look at where you are and what you are experiencing.  It might give you some clues as to why you aren’t working as hard as you could be to be where you want to be.  And of course look at the 3 piece formula and ask yourself, “what am I missing?”

GOAL + ACTION + A REAL, DEEP EXPERIENCE OF NOT HAVING SUCCESS

= THE ULTIMATE FORMULA FOR YOUR SUCCESS!!!!

But wait a minute, there is something else…  The formula only works if you have time carved out in your plan of action to work on you and your personal development, and you have someone or something to keep you accountable to your plan of action!

I know, I didn’t mention this above, and it’s massive, and it’s for that reason most people don’t want to hear it.  However, if I’ve learned one thing from my personal experience it’s that not working on one’s own personal growth is the ultimate formula not to succeed, or at the very least put a roof over what you are actually capable of, which may be way outside of what you see as your imminent success!

If you’d like to spend a bit more time working on you, or hear more snippets of wisdom about success, please head over to my Facebook page and I’ll enjoy seeing you there!

And let me know what you’re trying to succeed with in the comments below!  I would love to hear

Success is not in what you have, but in who you are ~  Bo Bennet