anxiety, gratitude, mindset, Uncategorized, wellness

My Remedy for Anxious Feelings

Now that I am not drowning in anxious feelings every day and have the space in my mind to approach anxiety more rationally, I am able to implement a really cool tool for making anxious feelings go away…

(If you are drowning in anxious feelings, i.e. feeling anxiety every day, this tool likely won’t work for you, but click here for something that will)

Often when we feel anxious there is something completely different that we are feeling underneath, we just haven’t given ourselves the time to feel that original emotion and process it.  We process emotions by experiencing them and choosing whether they require more action to resolve them.  However, how we live today is too fast paced for this sort of consideration!  Everybody is in a rush and busy.

So this emotion instead builds up and will be joined by other repressed emotions until all of a sudden you’re bubbling inside with this emotional boil up that makes you feel like you are going to throw it all up.  This frenetic emotion puts your body into sympathetic overdrive (fight or flight) – it’s on edge waiting to respond to whatever’s got you so on edge!  The blood rushes from your gut to your limbs and your digestion goes to shit, your mind can’t focus and your focus goes into lock down while your whole being commits to survive.  And at this point we often keep going because we still don’t stop and take action to feel the emotions we have repressed (or we numb them temporarily with alcohol, drugs or even sex) and this is where mild anxious feelings downspin into chronic anxiety disorder.

So here is a really simple action you can take.

Ask yourself, what am I really feeling?  And list the things out:

  • fear
  • out of control
  • love
  • overwhelm

The list can be as long or as short as you need.

Now interrogate the reasons for the feelings you have:

  • Too much work on
  • Some worry over something real
  • Uncertainty regarding a situation
  • Fear of loss, rejection, failure, success!

Now we are getting somewhere!  We can work with this.  We can take action.

  • We can spend some time thinking about what we are actually working towards and identify the priority actions to get us there fastest
  • We can figure out how to resolve our worry or make a decision whether it is worth our energy to worry at all (if it isn’t that thing can take a walk)
  • We can utilise gratitude so uncertainty (or any other negative emotion) is replaced
  • We can identify the beliefs driving the fear and whether they actually serve us.  We can always create new beliefs that work better for us.

Ultimately, personal development, goal setting, action planning and inner work will always be powerful in overcoming anxious feelings because they give us the control back.  We can’t get to where we want to go in the passenger seat of the car.  We have to take the steering wheel and drive!

Have you ever been a passenger in a car where the driver is scaring the life out of you?  That’s what is happening in your mind!  Negative thoughts and negative feelings buzzing around are like a white knuckle rollercoaster for your brain and it does what it knows best instinctively – it steers you away from pain – it alerts your nervous system that the shit is about to go down, so prepare to fight or run!  But when we take control of our thoughts and put action into place that restores order our nervous system can’t help but calm.

Breathing will support this process.  Contact me for a really simple anxiety breathing technique I learned that beats anxious feelings every time!  (Please just specify in the comments that it’s the breathing exercise you are seeking.)

Hope this helps!

Much love if you are feeling anxious.  It is an awful thing to battle, but I can help you overcome the battle for good. Click here to learn more

Money, success, Uncategorized

A little mindset shift that will catapult your success!!!!

I am going to teach you a little perspective shift that has helped me MASSIVELY!

Do you get that “icky” feeling when it comes to spending money?

Do you say no to spending money on your own growth?

I’ll give you an example. I’m in a position where I need to put some investment into my business.  It is making me feel “icky” because I don’t know whether it is going to pay off.  I don’t know whether it is going to pay off because deep down I am still not behind myself 100%  I still carry limiting beliefs about my success, but they are massively reduced compared to this time 18 months ago because of the work I have done on myself.

You see, our internal condition, holds us back. 

It affects us in numerous areas of our life where there is the opportunity to grow

  • The opportunity to start a new business
  • Investing in our wellness
  • Embracing a new opportunity.

I definitely felt exactly the same before I started my business!  However, at the same time we had other bills and I was finding the space on my credit card to pay them.

You know in the present day I don’t have to use a credit card because of my business.  It has pulled me out of the financial hole I was in and opened doors to so many opportunities.  My life is different because of it.  I am different because of it!  And only because I made the decision to invest in myself.

The thing that made me think about this was being in Specsavers today being told I need to wear glasses.  I was looking at the prices thinking “I could really do without this expense, but I need glasses and so, I’ll pay the money to get some.  The money was the same amount that I need to invest in my business and I didn’t get that same “icky feeling”.  What is the difference?

Our past experiences create baggage and garbage that blocks our future

And block our success.

If we don’t believe in ourselves to make something happen because of whatever reason we won’t invest cash.

If we don’t feel worthy of whatever that investment will bring us, we won’t invest the cash.

It might even be that we don’t believe in ourselves to be able to handle the kind of success that investment will create!  So we don’t invest the cash.

Think about it.  If I put my personal development course in front of you right now, or you were offered the chance to start your own business, or you were offered a way to get fit and healthy and whichever one of those things you chose cost a few hundred bucks.  What would stop you saying yes?

I am gonna guess… you are saying “I can’t afford it”.

OK, so now ask yourself, would you say yes if it was a water bill or a rates bill or school fees or a saving payment towards the annual family holiday?

Then honestly, ask yourself what is the difference.  It isn’t that you can’t afford it.  It is because you are prioritising other things over your own success.

And feeling “icky” is the body’s clever mechanism to make sure you continue doing that because the feeling is anchored in the memory of whatever caused your limiting belief in the first place.

So we come back to healing the internal condition for you to be able to grow.

And I promised to teach you the reframe that works for me and frees me from the limiting belief that prevents me GROWING!

It’s really simple.  I just think about the decision the future me would make.  I am in business, I want my business to be a success and so this is a need that needs to be satisfied.

I do the same thing when it comes to my personal development too now because I know that continuing to heal my internal condition is the only thing that will continue to free from the past experiences that held me back for too long.

Of course this requires having a strong vision of where you want to go.  What the future you looks like.

We work on vision in my free Manifestation Challenge.  That’s right, it’s absolutely free so you don’t have to spend anything to access it.  We start with setting your vision of your greatest life then I teach the 4 powerful keys you need to unlock your manifesting success.

Check it out here

OR, if you’re ready to dig deep into the mindset that is holding you back from success, register for my free Mindset Masterclass, happening tomorrow!

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In high vibes & happiness

CW x x x

 

success, Uncategorized

Are you ready for your life, your business and your bank account to ELEVATE?

Are you struggling to see where you are you going in your life/business, experiencing a lack of belief, or feeling like you are on the verge of giving up?

I was. And do you know what I found out? I was asking the universe for everything that was making me feel that way:

  • Financial worry
  • Stress
  • Hardship
  • Struggle
  •  Scarcity.

My mindset equaled my vibration which matched the low-level of success in my life.

Do you believe in Law of Attraction? Do you believe in the ability to manifest success in your life?

I do. Recognising how my mindset, how I carried myself and how all the worry and fear was negatively affecting my ability to manifest was my first powerful step toward changing my experiences.

So congratulations, you just took a step closer to elevate your life, you business and your bank account!

Now let’s work on the important stuff:

  • Those ‘low-level’ thoughts
  • Your vibrational energy
  • Your lack of self belief anchored in the fears born out of previous experiences that are blocking you from receiving what you desired.

Terrifying?

Yes. I get you. When I started to do this it was a big change in tack.  And a scary one because I actually had to pay for some support.  I was out of my depth.  I had been focusing on the external stuff, the comparably easy stuff now it came down to it – the business strategies (that failed), the magic formulas from x,y,z successful person (that failed), the social media tips from the free downloads (that failed), rather than work on my internal condition.

And ultimately this was the only thing that was important and it was this that changed my life.

I made a choice between continuing to live trapped by fear or becoming fierce about my belief in myself.

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When I committed to the internal experience of fierce belief and did the work to feel differently, I finally saw my vision start to manifest.

I’d previously approached my journey to success as: “I need my business to succeed to earn the money I need to survive, so I can feel good about my life again”, rather than “How can I feel good about my life again to be an energetic match for the extraordinary life I want for myself?”

The emphasis must be placed on healing the internal condition, not strapping bandaids over everything else that is external to us, like our business or our relationship or our job.

We need to lock eyes with our past self. Just for a moment and recognize the times when we failed…  or when we saw our parents fail… or when we bowed under the pressure of success… or when what we wanted inadvertently took away our freedom… or those times we were judged, bullied, ridiculed…  Rejected.

It hurts to look back and I’m not asking you to dredge all that happened back up again. I feel your fear about that.  I feel your pain.  There was a time in my life when everything unravelled.  When I was broken to what I feared was beyond repair.  My loss of self-consumed me for what felt like forever.  And I went through it mostly alone because I didn’t think anyone could help me.

I didn’t realise until last year how much what I experienced had trapped me in fear.

For 14 years I built a world that was a nice, safe bubble.  I developed an anxiety that prevented me wandering outside of that safe bubble.  And I made decisions from that place, thought from that place and acted from that place.

It doesn’t matter what experience creates your fears that lead to your lack of belief in yourself.  It doesn’t matter the size or the type of the fear; it doesn’t matter.

What matters is how you can use those experiences as your greatest power to GO FORWARD.

As your motivation to become a fierce pitbull of your thoughts and grateful throughout every inch of yourself for everything you already have.

You are alive, you are a survivor and a fighter and you are powerful!  You can journey towards your vision of better by taking simple actions that will begin to change your mindset and start to re-wire your brain!

I’m conscious that right now I know what you are thinking.  I know where my mindset was and what I was prepared to invest in terms of my time and money into myself.  Part of me felt like it was a waste of money and a lot of me felt guilty for spending it when my family had so many needs above my own! I guess I was beginning before I was necessarily fully ready because there was an opportunity to do so and I was stretching myself only as much as I could stand outside of my comfortable bubble.

I get it.  The confirmation that working on your inner mindset is the best and only way forward for you right now will only come through through action that gets you RESULTS:

– Belief in yourself

– Freedom from doubting yourself and your desires

– Action over hesitation!

Your life, your business and your bank account will all elevate as you finally believe that you totally deserve all of the abundance that you desire. As you believe you are capable of having it and are ready to unapologetically go for it.

Now is your chance to get everything you have ever wanted. By working on the one thing you have probably ignored the most… YOU!

Make a choice to continue living trapped by fear or become fierce about your belief in you.

Get started here!

Much Love

CW x x

 

law of attraction, manifestation, success, Uncategorized

How to Change Your Life By Changing Your Focus

Not so long ago I was in a hole, anchored to past experiences that had filled me with fear and doubt and I felt out of alignment with my soul’s purpose, even though I wasn’t really sure what that was.  We were sinking financially and everything I didn’t have was my constant focus.

They say pain pushes until vision pulls you to take action towards your dreams.

One day I set the intention to change my life by changing my focus.  I went from fear and overthinking to high vibe, dreaming again, feeling good more than feeling bad, connected to my intuition and grateful for limitless abundance!

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NEWS FLASH 🖐🔔📣❗

Working on everything external to you, like your business and your relationship and your career won’t work if you don’t believe you’re capable of your own success.

Everything is created twice. Once in the mind then in reality ~ Robin Sharma

I really believe this!  As I did the inner work and got to know myself away from the fear that had trapped me for so long everything in my life  had.  My relationship and how I spent my time began to feel uncomfortable, like a shoe that had suddenly started to rub….  Things I’d previously done to escape the fear that had ruled my life became unnecessary as I was finally free of my anxiety.  I had to question a lot.  Was this something I truly loved?  Or had it  stopped serving me now I was well, strong, healthy?  What did I need to let go of to allow myself to stretch the wings I had suddenly grown?  Literally like a caterpillar that had gone into chrysalis and emerged.  How did I need to acknowledge this new freedom in my life?  What did I want?

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There is no such thing as ultimate success. And this is incredibly exciting.  Life for me is now exhilarating, as it will become for you.

We will continue to grow until the day we die, but first we must start. The day we begin to work on ourselves is the day our lives start to change.

May this be the first day of the rest of your life knowing to the base of your soul that you will ultimately become your best self living your most extraordinary life!

Click here to discover my Teachable School

I developed a Free Manifestation Challenge to take you through the 4 Keys I learned were necessary to Unlock your Inner Power to Manifest the Life you want.

Just like Robin Sharma says, manifestation is about attracting the things we want flawlessly into our reality by being clear about what we want in our mind first. However, we also have to be open to receiving the outcome of our vision and have let go of any need and the particulars.  I will teach you how to do this across 5 modules. You will become clear, open, unattached to the details and detached from any sense of need.  And all for free.

So, if you are feeling frustrated right now because life doesn’t look how you want it to in terms of your success, happiness and lifestyle, or if you have already begun manifestation and are struggling to fully manifest the big things, you may want to consider this Challenge.  Especially if you are lacking full clarity of what the life of your wildest dreams looks like or have a strong money story like I did.

The Challenge is being hosted on Teachable.com and offers you 7 days of concise, consistent actions. If life happens and you need more time, this platform also gives you the freedom to work at your own pace and undertake the steps at any time, but I recommend sticking to 7 consistent days if you can.

I will drop into your email throughout the course of the week you enrol and I invite you to join my Facebook Inspired Community where you can watch live videos expanding on the day’s content in the Challenge.

At the end of 7 days you will have:

  • Improved belief that you can have everything you see in the vision you set for yourself
  • A clear picture of that vision
  • A more positive mindset
  • Freedom from need and freedom from the detail that is blocking you from manifesting what you want

Does this sound like something that would be useful to you?  If yes, click here to begin!