I was so blessed 3 weeks ago to take part in a Workshop to improve my Public Speaking.
Here you get to hear my story of Biohacking my Emotional Trauma and get to listen into a unique interview that lets you go deeper into my story and why I am so passionate to help other Mission-Driven entrepreneurs get out of their own way and start changing the world in the way that is their Soul Goal!
When we get awareness we take different action and we make different decisions.
Awareness and Perspective are two of the most powerful gifts Coaching will give you because 95% of our life is driven by our subconscious programming and this RUNS DEEP.
Awareness, Perspective, Focus, Vision – these powerful coaching benefits put you in control, not the programming born out of your experiences in life that were not positive.
What is your programming?
Do you believe that you are not enough?
Do you believe you aren’t worthy enough?
Do you believe you are not qualified enough to do what you really want to do?
Do you believe you are not good enough, so people will not want to look at/use/buy your service?
How is this affecting how you show up in the action you need to take to realise your goals?
I realised recently that my 9 years of Muay Thai fighting were me fighting against everything I believed to be true about me and about my world. I write a lot about this in my book, Life Through a Lens.
This year I made the decision to start fighting FOR. I set the vision of what I truly want and what I believe is possible, away from all the false beliefs I had about myself coming back from the Play To Win Reality Show. Suddenly fighting no longer seemed an appropriate way to be spending all my time. I’d been hiding in the gym for fight camp after fight camp because of all the fears I had about doing what I really wanted to do. My belief about myself had been that I’m fundamentally flawed and so my behaviour, or my habit was to hide, to doubt and to self-sabotage. I’d make excuses for these behaviours, but in reality we can either have excuses or we can have results. Our excuses come when we are working to prove the beliefs we have about ourselves. Here’s an example. Has anyone ever approached you to buy a product or start an opportunity online? Did you feel sceptical that it was legitimate? What did you do? Did you go search on google? When you were there, did you read the good reviews or keep scrolling until you found the bad ones? If you believe something to be true you are going to keep searching until you find the answer that backs up your belief. Your mind does exactly the same thing when it comes to taking action. Based on your experiences and what they led you to believe about yourself and about your world, your brain finds the justification and excuses it needs to stop you being vulnerable or unsafe. Your brain will go back into its ‘super computer’ of experiences and find the reasons for you not to show up and that is when all those thought processes start; when your monkey mind tells you that you shouldn’t do it, you’ll fail if you try, or it’s not worth your time or you can’t afford it. You don’t show up in that action and because you don’t show up in that action you don’t get the results.
To find true freedom and flexibility to pursue your soul goal you have to change that programming and change those beliefs because when you have them and listen to them you are fighting against everything that has happened in your life, everything that has harmed you, everybody that has let you down, everything that has failed you, everything that has hurt you instead of fighting for the life and impact you truly want.
I reached glass ceiling of “coping” this morning with the juggle of motherhood and my business.
Since getting back from holiday my work-life balance has slipped because I decided while away that it was time to take massive action to go to the next level! But the result has been…
TOTAL CHAOS.
I am back on the hamster wheel that I effectively managed to get off just over a year ago, but this time I won’t make the mistake of staying on it to the sacrifice of my own health and the happiness of my family…
Because if we are doing all of this for anything; it is for them, right? For the freedom to be present and fulfilled and our “best self”, so we can be everything they need and give them everything they need, so they thrive!
So why do we sacrifice that, to get that?
Good question, right?
Is it one you have asked yourself already?
Here is a powerful exercise to get your life into balance FAST.
Time to consider again, and be honest… What could you already be doing now if you jut had more time? Time freed up by being laser-focused on your income producing activities?
When I did this exercise I was flabbergasted to see I actually only had one income-producing activity in my business and if I was laser-focused in doing it I could do it in 1 hour a day!!!
I started to get excited. I got that sick/anxious feeling that I have started to identify as the dizziness of freedom! I realised I could have most of what I wanted right now if I could just be laser-focused in my business!
So the big question arose… Why can’t I be laser-focused now?
And then it dawned on me. I’m holding back from going ALL IN because the next level of success in my business scares me just as much as the first level did.
Thankfully I now have the experience to know that ACTION walks through FEAR and builds self-belief and confidence faster than anything…
I guess I also had to question whether I feared the freedom to be fully present with my kids too at this point. Because filling all those hours with activities is daunting and draining. I also had to question whether my fears related to money were at play a little bit again, anchored in the past because when you are not working it feels like you are not earning, even if the money is flowing into your bank account; a bit like a guilty feeling that life can be that easy after such deep struggle.
FEAR. False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear I know I can conquer, again, by continuing to stay fiercely in control of my thoughts and trusting my heart’s desire to go forward and keep travelling towards the life that is waiting for me on the other side of myself.
I have been on such a deep journey of inner healing, which I will share with you in my next blog. You can also be that person. The person that gifts yourself the freedom from your biggest limiting belief – the lack of belief in yourself. Belief blocked by fear born out of your past experiences. The past experiences that are in fact your greatest power to create future that you want.
Look back at your columns now and your vision and consider any projects you can complete in the next few days to free up some space in your days.
Add up the time you actually need for your income producing activities, plus the other business activities you need to do on a weekly basis, like accounts and blogs and schedule into your diary when you will undertake these, in designated blocks with regular breaks.
Think about any changes you want to make to how things are now in your life that would make things easier for you and contribute further to balance. I realised that I need to be asking more of my children in terms of contributing and could do my food shopping on a weekend when I have more time. Little things, but big difference.
If you’d like a template of the steps I used above with examples, please complete the short contact form below and I will send it across to you!
I hope like for me, balance is easy to find now you have a simple tool to use.
Much love,
CW x
Once upon a time a little girl and a little boy were born; in separate homes to separate parents in separate worlds. The boy’s mother loved her son more than she ever thought she could feel love. The girl’s mum loved her daughter so much she thought her heart might explode into a thousand pieces. The dads of the children held their babies tight in their arms and promised to always be there for them, always provide for them and always keep them safe.
As the little boy grew, he started to get stronger on his feet and one day he fell and grazed his knees. His parents rushed over and said, “come now my son, big boys don’t cry.” One day in the playground, as the baby girl became a confident child she saw the boy and his friends building sticks and she rushed over to be told, “this game is not for you little girl, go play with the other girls and their dolls.”
Slowly as the pair grew up in their separate worlds with their separate friends they each were slowly robbed of half of the self they had been born with all those years ago. The boy was robbed of living from his heart space and the girl was robbed of her ferocity, and so they followed the paths that fit the selves that were left, until one day they both realised they were unhappy.
The boy was now a man; a strong man with a good job and a loving wife and his own children. The girl was a loving wife with her own children who she loved so hard she felt her world would cease to exist without them. But something had happened within both of them for different reasons, which broke them apart so violently that their insides became raw and they could be honest about what they knew they had lost from within themselves. The man felt like the words were missing to describe the feelings he felt and so he replaced the words with stuff. The woman got real with the dreams life had taken away from her and she became so fierce in her pursuit of them that she frightened herself.
Both the man and the woman came full circle, back to what they had always been by connecting to the inner knowing of their souls. A knowing that cannot be explained, only felt. Maybe in some ways, in this way, the woman also connected to her heart space because in being everything to everyone else she lost her compassion for herself. In finding what both had lost they felt light, free, expanded and alive. They began to live by their intuition. They faced walking alone as they listened to the feelings the energy of others created within them and decided feeling good was worth the sacrifice of losing all that was no longer aligned to who they were.
As the woman stood in front of her man who had loved her when she was incomplete he now felt threatened and disconnected from her fierce, authentic, feeling wholeness. And as the man stood in front of the woman who had loved his strong responsible self-control she did not recognise the open, feeling, authentic softness that stood before her either.
Did the couple walk forward together or alone? That part of the story has not been written yet.
Clare Williamson 