women – Page 2 – Clare Williamson

I reached glass ceiling of “coping” this morning with the juggle of motherhood and my business.

Since getting back from holiday my work-life balance has slipped because I decided while away that it was time to take massive action to go to the next level! But the result has been…

TOTAL CHAOS.

I am back on the hamster wheel that I effectively managed to get off just over a year ago, but this time I won’t make the mistake of staying on it to the sacrifice of my own health and the happiness of my family…

Because if we are doing all of this for anything; it is for them, right? For the freedom to be present and fulfilled and our “best self”, so we can be everything they need and give them everything they need, so they thrive!

So why do we sacrifice that, to get that?

Good question, right?

Is it one you have asked yourself already?

Do you want to get off the hamster wheel and live life, happy, fulfilled and achieving your big dream?

Here is a powerful exercise to get your life into balance FAST.

Grab a pen. Braindump everything you are “working away on” at the moment (think of that hamster wheel.) Every single thing that is taking your focus and causing you to run the hamster wheel non-stop. Put brackets around any projects that are out of the norm for you, but you are working on them at the moment.
In the next column write down the business outcome of each activity in column 1. The business outcome you are working towards by doing it. This is column 2.
In column 3, write down how much time this activity should take you, if you were laser-focused on it.
Ask yourself a question at this point: Are these activities effective at achieving the outcome you are looking for? If no, would they be effective if you were laser-focused on doing them? If no, is it time for a new strategy?
Put your desired/expected $ amount in column 4. Consider, is this activity what you would consider income-producing? If it isn’t, can you scratch out this activity or change it?
Add up the total $ amount from your activities and below your columns, think about what you want your life to look like with this amount of money in it. Spend some time really picturing it… What are the activities you are doing on a daily basis? When are you working? What does your house look like? Where are you travelling to? How often? What are you saving for? How is your relationship with your husband/kids/friends? What are you doing together? Where are you living? What are you enjoying? What are you doing just for you? Write your vision down in a paragraph and get descriptive!

Time to consider again, and be honest… What could you already be doing now if you jut had more time? Time freed up by being laser-focused on your income producing activities?

When I did this exercise I was flabbergasted to see I actually only had one income-producing activity in my business and if I was laser-focused in doing it I could do it in 1 hour a day!!!

I started to get excited. I got that sick/anxious feeling that I have started to identify as the dizziness of freedom! I realised I could have most of what I wanted right now if I could just be laser-focused in my business!

So the big question arose… Why can’t I be laser-focused now?

And then it dawned on me. I’m holding back from going ALL IN because the next level of success in my business scares me just as much as the first level did.

Thankfully I now have the experience to know that ACTION walks through FEAR and builds self-belief and confidence faster than anything…

I guess I also had to question whether I feared the freedom to be fully present with my kids too at this point. Because filling all those hours with activities is daunting and draining. I also had to question whether my fears related to money were at play a little bit again, anchored in the past because when you are not working it feels like you are not earning, even if the money is flowing into your bank account; a bit like a guilty feeling that life can be that easy after such deep struggle.

FEAR. False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear I know I can conquer, again, by continuing to stay fiercely in control of my thoughts and trusting my heart’s desire to go forward and keep travelling towards the life that is waiting for me on the other side of myself.

I have been on such a deep journey of inner healing, which I will share with you in my next blog. You can also be that person. The person that gifts yourself the freedom from your biggest limiting belief – the lack of belief in yourself. Belief blocked by fear born out of your past experiences. The past experiences that are in fact your greatest power to create future that you want.

Look back at your columns now and your vision and consider any projects you can complete in the next few days to free up some space in your days.

Add up the time you actually need for your income producing activities, plus the other business activities you need to do on a weekly basis, like accounts and blogs and schedule into your diary when you will undertake these, in designated blocks with regular breaks.

Think about any changes you want to make to how things are now in your life that would make things easier for you and contribute further to balance. I realised that I need to be asking more of my children in terms of contributing and could do my food shopping on a weekend when I have more time. Little things, but big difference.

If you’d like a template of the steps I used above with examples, please complete the short contact form below and I will send it across to you!

I hope like for me, balance is easy to find now you have a simple tool to use.

Much love,

CW x

The other day I posted on my Facebook page a graphic that got a lot of engagement. It said, “Let Go of the Shit that Suffocates your Soul”. Does that resonate?

It definitely did with me. I have done a lot of letting go in the last year and I still have shit to let go, but I am in such a different place to where I was just a little over a year ago.

I was in constant struggle. I’d started my own business just before my second daughter was born after losing my job out of the blue and all of my maternity leave. At the time I thought this was a terrible thing simply because of the financial strain it would put us under, but at the same time there was a freedom in knowing I wouldn’t have to go back to work after a few months and would be able to be a mum to my new baby. However, 2.5 years in I just could not get my business earning money. Everything was difficult and the juggle between it and both my girls was making me feel like a failure because neither thing had my full attention. And we were sinking financially. At my lowest point I had to rock up with my children to the food bank and ask for some food to cover us until my husband’s pay day after the weekend. There was nothing left, we were overdrawn, with credit cards and a stack of other growing debt. My heart broke as I watched my girls tear into the box of cornflakes we were handed as the lady gathered other stuff for our box. They were hungry and I hadn’t even realised it through my stress. I felt broken. It was at that lowest point I began my journey back to myself.

I found my calling. Or moreover, I felt drawn back to the coaching practice I had trained in, but never had the confidence to fully launch because I didn’t know what my message was. Now I know. I know that every single piece of my past was part of my story and my gift to others and my greatest power in creating the future that I want. I started to learn. Like no other course I’d ever done. This was the experience of life and personal development delivered by those who already had what I want and one of the best skills one of these mentors ever taught me was the “Power of Letting Go”.

Have you ever tried something that you think is the right thing to do, but it just feels hard? Like a work a task, for example. You’ve strategized it, it went on the crucial to do list and you tell yourself it’s important, but however hard you try you just can’t get it done? Let it go. The most efficient way in my business right now to get stuff done is to let the stuff go that feels like a struggle. At first that felt like a cop out, like I was being lazy, but I forced myself to write the thing down and then move on. I’d get my head into my personal development instead and I found through experience that the struggle was a sign from the universe that there was something I needed to learn that I hadn’t learned yet, or personal experience I didn’t have that I needed to have. That is why my coaching had never taken off. I hadn’t learned what I needed to; so much more than just methods and tools.

If it’s really important and the right path, whatever you write down will come back to you with inspiration to get it done with ease. Try it! I love it. I get to glide over my to do list and rather than be pinned to it, be guided by my intuition and simultaneously and perpetually grow. Growth doesn’t equal struggle. If we want to manifest everything we want in our life, struggle and need must be eliminated and this can only happen if what we do is in alignment with our soul. And to be sure of that we need to really know ourselves and what we want! Our soul is us at our most pure and the universe has our back.

Are you keen to learn more about Manifestation? Are you feeling frustrated because life doesn’t look how you want it to in terms of your success, happiness and lifestyle? Or have you already begun manifestation, but are struggling to fully manifest the big things? You may want to consider my 7 Day Manifestation Challenge….

Learn the 4 Keys to Unlock the Magic of Manifestation through 7 days of concise, consistent actions. If life happens and you need more time, the platform where the Challenge is hosted also gives you the freedom to work at your own pace and undertake the steps at any time, but I recommend sticking to 7 consistent days if you can.

There are daily Facebook Lives expanding on the day’s content linked in the Challenge.

At the end of 7 days you will have:

Refreshed belief that you can have everything you see in the vision you set for yourself
A clear picture of that vision
A more positive mindset
Freedom from need and freedom from the detail that is blocking you from manifesting what you want.

Join me in connecting to your soul and getting to a place where you are ready to make your life extraordinary!

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A Powerful Exercise to Get Your Life Back into Balance NOW

Do you want to get off the hamster wheel and live life, happy, fulfilled and achieving your big dream?

The Powerful Skill of Letting Go