Freedom, law of attraction, mindset, success, Uncategorized

What will Coaching DO in your Life?

When we get awareness we take different action and we make different decisions.

Awareness and Perspective are two of the most powerful gifts Coaching will give you because 95% of our life is driven by our subconscious programming and this RUNS DEEP.

Awareness, Perspective, Focus, Vision – these powerful coaching benefits put you in control, not the programming born out of your experiences in life that were not positive.

What is your programming? 

Do you believe that you are not enough?

Do you believe you aren’t worthy enough?

Do you believe you are not qualified enough to do what you really want to do?

Do you believe you are not good enough, so people will not want to look at/use/buy your service?

How is this affecting how you show up in the action you need to take to realise your goals?

I realised recently that my 9 years of Muay Thai fighting were me fighting against everything I believed to be true about me and about my world.   I write a lot about this in my book, Life Through a Lens.

This year I made the decision to start fighting FOR.  I set the vision of what I truly want and what I believe is possible, away from all the false beliefs I had about myself coming back from the Play To Win Reality Show.  Suddenly fighting no longer seemed an appropriate way to be spending all my time.  I’d been hiding in the gym for fight camp after fight camp because of all the fears I had about doing what I really wanted to do.  My belief about myself had been that I’m fundamentally flawed and so my behaviour, or my habit was to hide, to doubt and to self-sabotage.  I’d make excuses for these behaviours, but in reality we can either have excuses or we can have results.  Our excuses come when we are working to prove the beliefs we have about ourselves.  Here’s an example.  Has anyone ever approached you to buy a product or start an opportunity online?  Did you feel sceptical that it was legitimate?  What did you do?  Did you go search on google?  When you were there, did you read the good reviews or keep scrolling until you found the bad ones?  If you believe something to be true you are going to keep searching until you find the answer that backs up your belief.  Your mind does exactly the same thing when it comes to taking action.  Based on your experiences and what they led you to believe about yourself and about your world, your brain finds the justification and excuses it needs to stop you being vulnerable or unsafe.  Your brain will go back into its ‘super computer’ of experiences and find the reasons for you not to show up and that is when all those thought processes start; when your monkey mind tells you that you shouldn’t do it, you’ll fail if you try, or it’s not worth your time or you can’t afford it.  You don’t show up in that action and because you don’t show up in that action you don’t get the results.

To find true freedom and flexibility to pursue your soul goal you have to change that programming and change those beliefs because when you have them and listen to them you are fighting against everything that has happened in your life, everything that has harmed you, everybody that has let you down, everything that has failed you, everything that has hurt you instead of fighting for the life and impact you truly want.

To start, click here

manifestation, mindset, success, Uncategorized

A thought (and tip) on limited beliefs!

You are the average of the five people you spend most time with ~ Jim Rohn

This means our community can make or break our success!

We have 70,000 thoughts buzzing around our mind every day and unfortunately, most of them are negative.  So who we hang around, what we listen and what influences our thoughts becomes significant.

  • What is your mental nutrition?
  • Who is lifting you up?
  • Who is inspiring you?
  • Who is pushing you forwards?
  • Who is supporting you?

Because all of us have limiting beliefs and they don’t need any help holding us back!

In fact, if you aren’t experiencing success in a particular area of your life right now I can almost guarantee a limiting belief is at play.

Last year began the process of interrogating my past experiences to understand the ones that had created my limiting beliefs around money, parenting and success.  Because they were all presenting as a crippling lack of belief in myself and this was BEFORE the experience that completely shut me down in fear.

You see, most of our limiting beliefs are created when we are children.  When we are between 2 & 6 years old our brains are like little sponges; we absorb everything and create our beliefs from what we observe innocently in our world.

And the thing is, we cannot change the experiences that happened in the past, we can only ever control what we do going forwards.  We can continue to live trapped by our limiting beliefs and our fears or we can make a decision to grow.

On my Facebook Page I posted today that my Manifestation Challenge is running again to help you choose empowering thoughts over negative ones and help change your focus.

Just think of it like programming – like your brain is just a big computer and you can download the new stuff you want on it, but you have to invest in the programming.

Otherwise every thought, will ping a big emotional charge like fear, which keeps you stuck.

And you know, I was stuck, really stuck 18 months ago.  And then suddenly out of nowhere an opportunity presented itself to move forward.

It was a business opportunity actually.

I couldn’t afford it

I didn’t believe I had it in me to achieve in it

But I couldn’t handle the idea that if I didn’t take it I was going to stay stuck!  That was the only reason I said yes to it!  That and I was kind of inspired by the idea of changing the world…

But the big message is that decision is directly responsible for where I am today because of the community it connected me to and the motivation and inspiration I surrounded myself with that encouraged me to believe in myself.

I upped my average

So, limiting beliefs, your mental nutrition, your community and your new programming.  I really recommend, even if it isn’t my free manifestation challenge, find one new way this week to start reprogramming your thoughts this week.

You can check out my last newsletter too to see some ideas you can try straight away!

In your happiness & high vibes!

CW x xx

Your Success Enabler

Money, success, Uncategorized

A little mindset shift that will catapult your success!!!!

I am going to teach you a little perspective shift that has helped me MASSIVELY!

Do you get that “icky” feeling when it comes to spending money?

Do you say no to spending money on your own growth?

I’ll give you an example. I’m in a position where I need to put some investment into my business.  It is making me feel “icky” because I don’t know whether it is going to pay off.  I don’t know whether it is going to pay off because deep down I am still not behind myself 100%  I still carry limiting beliefs about my success, but they are massively reduced compared to this time 18 months ago because of the work I have done on myself.

You see, our internal condition, holds us back. 

It affects us in numerous areas of our life where there is the opportunity to grow

  • The opportunity to start a new business
  • Investing in our wellness
  • Embracing a new opportunity.

I definitely felt exactly the same before I started my business!  However, at the same time we had other bills and I was finding the space on my credit card to pay them.

You know in the present day I don’t have to use a credit card because of my business.  It has pulled me out of the financial hole I was in and opened doors to so many opportunities.  My life is different because of it.  I am different because of it!  And only because I made the decision to invest in myself.

The thing that made me think about this was being in Specsavers today being told I need to wear glasses.  I was looking at the prices thinking “I could really do without this expense, but I need glasses and so, I’ll pay the money to get some.  The money was the same amount that I need to invest in my business and I didn’t get that same “icky feeling”.  What is the difference?

Our past experiences create baggage and garbage that blocks our future

And block our success.

If we don’t believe in ourselves to make something happen because of whatever reason we won’t invest cash.

If we don’t feel worthy of whatever that investment will bring us, we won’t invest the cash.

It might even be that we don’t believe in ourselves to be able to handle the kind of success that investment will create!  So we don’t invest the cash.

Think about it.  If I put my personal development course in front of you right now, or you were offered the chance to start your own business, or you were offered a way to get fit and healthy and whichever one of those things you chose cost a few hundred bucks.  What would stop you saying yes?

I am gonna guess… you are saying “I can’t afford it”.

OK, so now ask yourself, would you say yes if it was a water bill or a rates bill or school fees or a saving payment towards the annual family holiday?

Then honestly, ask yourself what is the difference.  It isn’t that you can’t afford it.  It is because you are prioritising other things over your own success.

And feeling “icky” is the body’s clever mechanism to make sure you continue doing that because the feeling is anchored in the memory of whatever caused your limiting belief in the first place.

So we come back to healing the internal condition for you to be able to grow.

And I promised to teach you the reframe that works for me and frees me from the limiting belief that prevents me GROWING!

It’s really simple.  I just think about the decision the future me would make.  I am in business, I want my business to be a success and so this is a need that needs to be satisfied.

I do the same thing when it comes to my personal development too now because I know that continuing to heal my internal condition is the only thing that will continue to free from the past experiences that held me back for too long.

Of course this requires having a strong vision of where you want to go.  What the future you looks like.

We work on vision in my free Manifestation Challenge.  That’s right, it’s absolutely free so you don’t have to spend anything to access it.  We start with setting your vision of your greatest life then I teach the 4 powerful keys you need to unlock your manifesting success.

Check it out here

OR, if you’re ready to dig deep into the mindset that is holding you back from success, register for my free Mindset Masterclass, happening tomorrow!

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In high vibes & happiness

CW x x x

 

success, Uncategorized

Are you ready for your life, your business and your bank account to ELEVATE?

Are you struggling to see where you are you going in your life/business, experiencing a lack of belief, or feeling like you are on the verge of giving up?

I was. And do you know what I found out? I was asking the universe for everything that was making me feel that way:

  • Financial worry
  • Stress
  • Hardship
  • Struggle
  •  Scarcity.

My mindset equaled my vibration which matched the low-level of success in my life.

Do you believe in Law of Attraction? Do you believe in the ability to manifest success in your life?

I do. Recognising how my mindset, how I carried myself and how all the worry and fear was negatively affecting my ability to manifest was my first powerful step toward changing my experiences.

So congratulations, you just took a step closer to elevate your life, you business and your bank account!

Now let’s work on the important stuff:

  • Those ‘low-level’ thoughts
  • Your vibrational energy
  • Your lack of self belief anchored in the fears born out of previous experiences that are blocking you from receiving what you desired.

Terrifying?

Yes. I get you. When I started to do this it was a big change in tack.  And a scary one because I actually had to pay for some support.  I was out of my depth.  I had been focusing on the external stuff, the comparably easy stuff now it came down to it – the business strategies (that failed), the magic formulas from x,y,z successful person (that failed), the social media tips from the free downloads (that failed), rather than work on my internal condition.

And ultimately this was the only thing that was important and it was this that changed my life.

I made a choice between continuing to live trapped by fear or becoming fierce about my belief in myself.

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When I committed to the internal experience of fierce belief and did the work to feel differently, I finally saw my vision start to manifest.

I’d previously approached my journey to success as: “I need my business to succeed to earn the money I need to survive, so I can feel good about my life again”, rather than “How can I feel good about my life again to be an energetic match for the extraordinary life I want for myself?”

The emphasis must be placed on healing the internal condition, not strapping bandaids over everything else that is external to us, like our business or our relationship or our job.

We need to lock eyes with our past self. Just for a moment and recognize the times when we failed…  or when we saw our parents fail… or when we bowed under the pressure of success… or when what we wanted inadvertently took away our freedom… or those times we were judged, bullied, ridiculed…  Rejected.

It hurts to look back and I’m not asking you to dredge all that happened back up again. I feel your fear about that.  I feel your pain.  There was a time in my life when everything unravelled.  When I was broken to what I feared was beyond repair.  My loss of self-consumed me for what felt like forever.  And I went through it mostly alone because I didn’t think anyone could help me.

I didn’t realise until last year how much what I experienced had trapped me in fear.

For 14 years I built a world that was a nice, safe bubble.  I developed an anxiety that prevented me wandering outside of that safe bubble.  And I made decisions from that place, thought from that place and acted from that place.

It doesn’t matter what experience creates your fears that lead to your lack of belief in yourself.  It doesn’t matter the size or the type of the fear; it doesn’t matter.

What matters is how you can use those experiences as your greatest power to GO FORWARD.

As your motivation to become a fierce pitbull of your thoughts and grateful throughout every inch of yourself for everything you already have.

You are alive, you are a survivor and a fighter and you are powerful!  You can journey towards your vision of better by taking simple actions that will begin to change your mindset and start to re-wire your brain!

I’m conscious that right now I know what you are thinking.  I know where my mindset was and what I was prepared to invest in terms of my time and money into myself.  Part of me felt like it was a waste of money and a lot of me felt guilty for spending it when my family had so many needs above my own! I guess I was beginning before I was necessarily fully ready because there was an opportunity to do so and I was stretching myself only as much as I could stand outside of my comfortable bubble.

I get it.  The confirmation that working on your inner mindset is the best and only way forward for you right now will only come through through action that gets you RESULTS:

– Belief in yourself

– Freedom from doubting yourself and your desires

– Action over hesitation!

Your life, your business and your bank account will all elevate as you finally believe that you totally deserve all of the abundance that you desire. As you believe you are capable of having it and are ready to unapologetically go for it.

Now is your chance to get everything you have ever wanted. By working on the one thing you have probably ignored the most… YOU!

Make a choice to continue living trapped by fear or become fierce about your belief in you.

Get started here!

Much Love

CW x x

 

success, time management, Uncategorized

A Powerful Exercise to Get Your Life Back into Balance NOW

I reached glass ceiling of “coping” this morning with the juggle of motherhood and my business.

Since getting back from holiday my work-life balance has slipped because I decided while away that it was time to take massive action to go to the next level!  But the result has been…

TOTAL CHAOS.

I am back on the hamster wheel that I effectively managed to get off just over a year ago, but this time I won’t make the mistake of staying on it to the sacrifice of my own health and the happiness of my family…

Because if we are doing all of this for anything; it is for them, right?  For the freedom to be present and fulfilled and our “best self”, so we can be everything they need and give them everything they need, so they thrive!

So why do we sacrifice that, to get that?

Good question, right?

Is it one you have asked yourself already?

Do you want to get off the hamster wheel and live life, happy, fulfilled and achieving your big dream?

Here is a powerful exercise to get your life into balance FAST.

  1. Grab a pen.  Braindump everything you are “working away on” at the moment (think of that hamster wheel.)  Every single thing that is taking your focus and causing you to run the hamster wheel non-stop.  Put brackets around any projects that are out of the norm for you, but you are working on them at the moment.
  2. In the next column write down the business outcome of each activity in column 1.  The business outcome you are working towards by doing it.  This is column 2.
  3. In column 3, write down how much time this activity should take you, if you were laser-focused on it.
  4. Ask yourself a question at this point:  Are these activities effective at achieving the outcome you are looking for?  If no, would they be effective if you were laser-focused on doing them?  If no, is it time for a new strategy?
  5. Put your desired/expected $ amount in column 4.  Consider, is this activity what you would consider income-producing?  If it isn’t, can you scratch out this activity or change it?
  6. Add up the total $ amount from your activities and below your columns, think about what you want your life to look like with this amount of money in it.  Spend some time really picturing it… What are the activities you are doing on a daily basis?  When are you working?  What does your house look like?  Where are you travelling to?  How often?  What are you saving for?  How is your relationship with your husband/kids/friends?  What are you doing together?  Where are you living?  What are you enjoying?  What are you doing just for you?  Write your vision down in a paragraph and get descriptive!

Time to consider again, and be honest…  What could you already be doing now if you jut had more time?  Time freed up by being laser-focused on your income producing activities?

When I did this exercise I was flabbergasted to see I actually only had one income-producing activity in my business and if I was laser-focused in doing it I could do it in 1 hour a day!!!

I started to get excited.  I got that sick/anxious feeling that I have started to identify as the dizziness of freedom!  I realised I could have most of what I wanted right now if I could just be laser-focused in my business!

So the big question arose…  Why can’t I be laser-focused now?

And then it dawned on me.  I’m holding back from going ALL IN because the next level of success in my business scares me just as much as the first level did.

Thankfully I now have the experience to know that ACTION walks through FEAR and builds self-belief and confidence faster than anything…

I guess I also had to question whether I feared the freedom to be fully present with my kids too at this point.  Because filling all those hours with activities is daunting and draining.  I also had to question whether my fears related to money were at play a little bit again, anchored in the past because when you are not working it feels like you are not earning, even if the money is flowing into your bank account; a bit like a guilty feeling that life can be that easy after such deep struggle.

FEAR.  False Evidence Appearing Real.  Fear I know I can conquer, again, by continuing to stay fiercely in control of my thoughts and trusting my heart’s desire to go forward and keep travelling towards the life that is waiting for me on the other side of myself.

I have been on such a deep journey of inner healing, which I will share with you in my next blog.  You can also be that person.  The person that gifts yourself the freedom from your biggest limiting belief – the lack of belief in yourself. Belief blocked by fear born out of your past experiences. The past experiences that are in fact your greatest power to create future that you want.

Look back at your columns now and your vision and consider any projects you can complete in the next few days to free up some space in your days.

Add up the time you actually need for your income producing activities, plus the other business activities you need to do on a weekly basis, like accounts and blogs and schedule into your diary when you will undertake these, in designated blocks with regular breaks.

Think about any changes you want to make to how things are now in your life that would make things easier for you and contribute further to balance.  I realised that I need to be asking more of my children in terms of contributing and could do my food shopping on a weekend when I have more time.  Little things, but big difference.

If you’d like a template of the steps I used above with examples, please complete the short contact form below and I will send it across to you!

 

I hope like for me, balance is easy to find now you have a simple tool to use.

Much love,

CW x